abrahma Kumar wrote:And if gays are working more "openly" to attain that balance why is it a matter that gives rise to such impassioned negative reactions in society at large? If there is a possibility that attaining gender and sexual balance is an intrinsic part of the soul's journey - maybe not for all of us through homosexual experience - then why do not we souls evidence "instinctive sanskars of natural acceptance"?
This always opens up interesting debate. My realisation of this experience, in my country and in many places that I have visited aroud the world, really depends on the consciousness of the population. For instance, go off to Thailand and the only people who stare at an effeminate male are the (foreign) tourists. Many of the Asian countries also don't seem to have anti-gay (or anti-gay sex) laws in place either, in direct contrast to others.
In my own realisations, I have recognised that people act up against these things simply because they have fear of acknowledging something that exists within them. I say "It takes one to know one" (
) - a case being that I do present myself as a 'regular' kinda guy where most people are happy to chat and interact with me but often as soon as the 'I am gay' bit comes up - a whiter shade of pale sets in.
Many of these people with the negative reactions are biased/racist/sexist in many other ways too and all 'resonate' to what they believe a 'real man' should be ... but certainly do not present themselves physically; emotionally or mentally as what I perceive balance to be.
Another argument that often arises is something that came up when South Africa was recently debating the issues of same-sex marriage (which has been now legalized) because being gay is supposedely un-African! So it could be a secular belief system that gets installed as 'the truth' in particular communites or societies.
On the question of balanced 'male/female sanskaras', I must say that for me, its an absolute pleasure to be around a heterosexual male who is secure in his own sexuality and has no fear of embracing anyone, regardless of colour, creed, sexuality etc.
During my BK time, I never realy encounterd this kind of bias at all but, there again, when one is celibate then we're all in the same boat. I just love the reasoning a local church group gave when they (just last week) debated about allowing gay clergy onto the pulpit. They approved it, but stated that the clergyman would have to be celibate in order to lead the congregation. When asked if their heterosexual counterparts were celibate, the answer was given, "No of course not, that's different" and that folks sums it all up. "If you're different, you're wrong so conform or we won't let you be part."
Not so too in
much of BK life too methinks ...
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