Bro Neo,
How about a compromise, of moving it to the ex-BK forum, rather than having it in the BK forum. I say this as one that has been banned from all three sites.
A compromise is good, and given that we want to open communications on the Duty of Care issue and other issues it may be best.
We all have our truths and some times timing is essential in the delivery of some information that we feel is our truth. If it is delivered harshly it will be seen as hard and painful and the message/information lost.
Please see this in the Abuse and Recovery Section:
Grieving a cult's
This was taken from the
exbaba.com. It all sounds strangely familiar.
If you have read thus far, it is possible that you are totally devastated.
The grief any cult's unveiling causes honest spiritual seekers, is monumental. To find that the path, which took one away from family, friends and loved ones is only a mirage ... To find oneself deceived, betrayed; to have one’s trust broken ... To find the love promised is conditional and those one thought were ‘family’, now turn away with cries of "Judas!" ...
It’s a devastation of self worth, and seemingly a terrible waste of time. But of course it is not. One thing is self evident. All here on the planet are having experience, and the consequence of experience - especially spiritual experience - is wisdom, and freedom from dependency.
Leaving a cult is like experiencing a death of a loved one. There is a grieving process which will take time. Time to process the feelings of confusion, loss, guilt, disillusionment, anger, and lack of trust engendered.
For a little while I felt very angry, to think my long held love of God the Creator had been exploited in this way - 'detoured' as it were, along a pathway that I hadn't consciously asked for; enticing me into giving my power away to a master of deception.
But this feeling didn’t last for long, I was soon able to accept that the whole experience was one I chose, and my grief and anger - also part of the experience. In time the negative feelings were replaced with a sense of freedom, and the joy of returning to the real world.
The gift in all of the above, was a profound realisation that for me the 'age of the guru' is dead. No longer willing to give my trust to outer teachers, I now at last, follow the message all true spiritual masters have given down the long halls of time - by seeking within, the kingdom of heaven.
In conclusion, I can tell you from our own experience, the pain you suffer will heal. There is life after Baba, and as you claim back your own power, you will be enriched, and find the pathway now illuminated, wonderful.
I wish you a fulfilling and self realising journey.
So, let’s move on and continue expressing what we feel and acknowledge that we all have varying points of view, but that we must all get along, as some that are xBKs here today were once BKs or QBKs. Even I at times was shocked and it took me days to wrap my mind around what I had learned and eventually came to terms with it. What helped me was that I had friends by then that helped me to sort it out via pms.
I say this to you as I am very sensitive, and rather formal and it took me a while to find your humour (points and story line) and delight in what you have to say. You once shocked me, as I am older and not used to someone with such a lively a tone. I will pm you so that you know of what I speak of.
I do want to say that I understand what you are saying given the recent events and what many had to do, what sacrifices some were willing to make and the suffering that some have had to bare by coming forward (a personal account). None of that is lost.
Now, as to the “Cold Chill Threat”, that hasn’t been lost and if I understand you correctly that is where you are heading. Is this correct?
Now, would we want to loose such a lively one as you? No!
Regards,
Tete