Wow. Great first post. Thank you and welcome. Whew ... where to start, you have a wealth of insight.
Firstly, please understand that I am not prejudiced in any way against Sindhis or Indians. Quite the opposite, I have and have had may good friends from the region and an interest or affinity with the various cultures. When I use Sindhis in this context, I am refer to the Sindi BK inner circle or the Kirpalani Klan as I call them.
On the other hand, Lekhraj Kirpalani and the Kirpalani Klan have literally demonise non-BK Sindis, calling them all the bad names under the Hindu sun and portraying them as devils. They have indoctrinated their followers to believe this, portraying the contemporary 1930s Sindhi community as backwards, grossly materialistic and so on. The early history happened entirely within an extremely close and cloistered community and appeared to be a battle of wills, finances, and a clash for superiority between Lekhraj Kirpalani and his community leader, the local Panchayat's Mukhi and his family.
I am, therefore, interested by your comment ...
However, the whole BK organisation stems from the lowest denominator among the Sindhi community.
This is interesting to me as it is very difficult for foreigners to assess the societal standing, the class of other individuals from other cultures. I have learned of some incredibly high minded and progressive individuals amongst the Sindhu society - not just wealthy - and discovered an entirely different picture from the persecution myth the BKs present. Individuals who clearly make Lekhraj Kirpalani and his indulgence look very, very backwards.
The BKs are loathed to admit this ... he is still their god and anyone who questions that are devils.
As you know, the word Kumari really means "princess" in English, not daughter, and calling someone a "princess" in English generally means, e.g. a vain, spoilt, rich girl raised on Daddy's money who often spends a life looking for another men, sugar daddies, to look after her. For me, that actually fits many of the "original jewels" very well and their attitudes remains. Om Radhe, their "Mother Mary" or "Eve", their "Saraswati" or "Jagatamba" (goddess of knowledge or world mother) is a very typical example. Nirmala seems to come along similar but further down the pecking order.
The stories we hear of them were girls who wore a new dress to school ever day and who charity was donating the old ones to poor people, or young women married to old men with wedding contracts that stipulated that they might never walk on uncarpeted floors. The early BKs had servants and even uniformed drivers to look after them.
An Indian once said to me, having listen to recording of the BK god spirit speaking through him, that "the BK god speaks in a lower middle class accent and level". Not quite what I would expect of the God of all religions. I presume you know the theory, that "God" possessed the body of Lekhraj Kirpalani and uniquely spoke and speaks through him to the world.
"Class" is defined by many things; not just wealth but education and world view. Lekhraj Kirpalani became exceptionally wealthy and used that surrounded himself with a harem of gopis who became the BKWSU but the cult were also anti-intellectual development. It seems to depend on its marks - the targets of its confidence trick - being stupid, or stupefying them. Again, I have read this is rooted in the Bhaibund culture and they were anti-education but pro-business and money making. "If it did not make a profit, there was no point to it".
What more can you see of the Brahma Kumari culture and the kinds of people, women mainly, who are attracted by it.
You make a very interesting observation about daddies protecting daughters where they were safe.
I could correlate that with what we know about Jayanti Kirpalani who leads the Western BK order and her Father's relationship with the BKs (he financed both her and her mother so they did not have to work and allowed the daughter not to marry which allowed her to ascend within the cult). I am wonder if the same applies to Nirmala.
OK, let's be brutal, is there a trend of mothers and fathers packing the stupid and ugly and unmarriageable off to the Brahma Kumaris? Is it a way of lessening the dowry burden if you have too many daughters?
(OK, the BKs take some dowry off of families, and families have to support their daughters whilst they train, but do they take less than another family would?).
Can you give us any more insights in this area?
I am sorry to hear of you problem. As you now know, they are not rare or unique. Are you having problems, are you stuck with them?
Can I just say straight away; do everything you can to protect your wealth and property and, please, do not feed the BKs via your wife. If you have children, whatever you do, put it in trust for them otherwise the BKs will end up with it.
I wonder if it is possible to put that in a Will ... a condition "only if they do not follow the BK"?