The "reason" is ... to learn not to believe in gods or human being who predict something big is going to happen in "two to three years" and that you should not subject yourself and surrender all your time, money and energy to them. The lesson is, to learn to think rationally and even skeptically towards irrational phenomena ... to not "suspend your disbelief" but to keep your head screwed on. In short, not to be stupid with your precision life.
But that is really not the reason.
This idea that "everything happens for a reason" is just a method of trying to turn thoughts which might cause you depression, e.g. "why did this bad thing happen to me?", into a more positive hopeful state of mind. I don't think it is an absolute truth though. I don't think everything happens for a reason at all. I think a very large proportion of our lives are actually completely random ... caused by events reaching right back to the beginning of the universe ... or far beyond our control or influence.
What such an idea seems to be doing is teaching or encouraging us to write a narrative of our lives retrospectively in a more positive hopeful manner. And that's not a bad thing if it encourages us to have a little faith in life's ability to sustain us. Steve Jobs, founder of Apple computers and a hugely influential character in the development of personal computing drew up similar, profound equation of "connect the dots" ... but then he was quite a unique character and, I am sorry to say, not every one can be a Steve Jobs.
You cannot connect the dots looking forward you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something: your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path.
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Steve Jobs, Stanford Commencement Adress, 2005
As someone who did achieve something in his life, and make a huge difference to others, it is worth reading the full text ... but I don't think such ideas can be applied to sustain a commitment to Brahma Kumarism and the Kirpalani Klan mobsters. Nearing the end of his life, what he said was ...
Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life.
Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
For many people, being hit by the Kirpalani Klan mobsters is like becoming disabled after being involved in a car crash. It's not a good event. And it is most certainly "living someone else's life". Indeed, it's worse than that ... it's living someone else madness. Literally. Living the Kirpalani Klan's mental illness, a mental illness which has evolved into a nigh criminal underworld operating a facade of a religion and other business on top. For over 20 years, Lekhraj Kirpalani suffered from a severe mentally illness ... that, literally, of believing he was god.
Can anyone is good conscience tell us that, "happened for a reason". Especially a good reason?
You might philosophise that it "happened for a reason" but that "reason" might just be to learn not to be tricked by tricksters or trapped in their web of deceit and manipulation. I suppose, positively, if you've managed to see through it and extricate yourself, you might pack yourself on your back and tell yourself, "well done". But, on the whole, I think it is a lesson worth avoiding altogether. Or learning from others. Not every lesson is the most valuable, beneficial or even necessary one.
The danger is there is a desperation in human beings that manifests in people like gamblers and the victims of frauds - which we are ex-BKs were - and that is to keep gambling or investing in such frauds in the hope that something will come back out of it eventually. Somehow we cannot believe it will not and understand that we should stop and pull out. Sometimes pulling out is very difficult and painful after we have becoming addicted and attached to other members and the leaders of a community ... and that is what the BKs do too, binding one up into the Gordian Knot of their web.
Perhaps the lesson was to teach us to get away as far as possible from people, things and gods that suck the life out of you ... perhaps such lessons are only beneficial if we are to believe that we have many lives to benefit from such expensive losses. I am not even so sure about that these days, so best live for today and in the here and now of the real world.
No more, working today for nothing in order to get "jam tomorrow" (an expression for a never to be fulfilled promise), no more faith and belief without very good factual evidence".
Best become like individuals who were not sucked in by BKism.
C S Lewis wrote:Wrong or justice in the present,
Joy or sorrow, what are they
While there's always jam to-morrow,
While we tread the onward way?
Never knowing where we're going,
We can never go astray.