How many BK "yuktis" (methods or skills) are actually lying and deception. As the BKs used to teach, "the divine art of concealing and revealing". How much of "being royal" is learning to control and suppress the signs we give off and when we lie?
Pamela Meyer has written a book called "How to Spot a Liar". OK, she has a book to sell, so filter out some professional self-promotion, but she states, "we live in a post-truth society" ... "in a deception epidemic" infecting every aspect of our lives. She presents the current state of art about lie detecting in an easy to read fashion and how the technology to recognise the truth is improving and will get even better in the future.
Don't expect to see her book in the BK bookstore.
How much of religion, whether innocent white lies like "Father Christmas", used to make children behave better in order to get a present, or persistent adult deception, like the Brahma Kumaris history and much of its activities, are just pure and simple ... lies?
And is it not damaging?
I was remember how much of the excitement of being a BK was the element of being
To make matters worse, it turns out evolution is the equivalent of a kind of "arms race" in which our ability to detect deception must keep up with our ability to deceive. The better we get at detecting lies, the better the liars' stories become. The more sophisticated the stories, the more advanced the techniques required to detect them. The more intelligent the species, individual or group, the more deceptive it is.
In her talk, she highlights a few signs that we can learn to look out for, to recognise both honest and dishonest people, and a few ways of trying them.
• Duping delight
A couple interested me, the first was "duping delight" ... the unconscious thrill or happiness of the liar as fooling the lied to. She showed how this even breaks out as a smile or a laugh on the face of the one lying. I remember how we laughed sometimes as BKs at some act of duping a VIP or outsider, or Dadi Janki literally laughing at "... we tell people everything is for free, but then we takes everything".
• Leaked expressions
She encourages people to watch out for leaked expressions, especially those expression of contempt when anger turns to contempt, your looked down upon or 'dismissed' and I remembered flick of the hands, heads being turned away, little snaps used to bring junior BKs into lines. Mostly, I thought, senior BKs, like Jayanti Kripalani, Miriam before she left, Mohini, even BK Shivani are extremely controlled and that is part of the training of a BK.
Dr Hansa Raval, the BK leader who started legal action against us but turned out to have had a secret marriage and affair as a BK center-in-charge, all absolutely against Shrimat, is a perfect example; like a "Bill Clinton" of the BKWSU. Her fraudulent visa applications, in which she claimed high paid Indian BK Brothers in IT were "priests" working in the community in order to get an American visa, are wonderful examples of much of this. As was the hierarchies support of her.
• Honest response
Interestingly, Meyer points out honest people will far more often recommend strict punishment, and dishonest ones ... not.
• Clusters
Meyer talks about how to look not for single signs but clusters of sings, e.g. the use of overly formal not simple and informal language, choices of words used to distancing the individuals, e.g. not referring to them by name but by some title, using specific language to discredit the subject or threat and the putting up of barrier objects or body language like point one's feet towards the exit of wherever the liar is being confronted.
Half-truths covering a bigger lie or a lack of straight answers, e.g. a thief being accused to "taking" someone's belongings will answer, "I don't have them" not "I did not take them". To say, "I don't 'have' them" may well be true ... the thief might have already passed them on ... but it masks that they did also 'take' them.
She also says, "over-sharing is not honesty". It can be another trick. or cover up ... "too much irrelevant information".
Another video is here.
Pamela Meyer has written a book called "How to Spot a Liar". OK, she has a book to sell, so filter out some professional self-promotion, but she states, "we live in a post-truth society" ... "in a deception epidemic" infecting every aspect of our lives. She presents the current state of art about lie detecting in an easy to read fashion and how the technology to recognise the truth is improving and will get even better in the future.
Don't expect to see her book in the BK bookstore.
How much of religion, whether innocent white lies like "Father Christmas", used to make children behave better in order to get a present, or persistent adult deception, like the Brahma Kumaris history and much of its activities, are just pure and simple ... lies?
And is it not damaging?
I was remember how much of the excitement of being a BK was the element of being
- a) superior to others ... (which in itself was a big lie!), and
b) on a secret mission of which outsiders did not know the real purpose and in which we and our leaders regularly deceived those outsiders. Indeed, skilful deception (being subtle) was encouraged and rewarded as "good service".
To make matters worse, it turns out evolution is the equivalent of a kind of "arms race" in which our ability to detect deception must keep up with our ability to deceive. The better we get at detecting lies, the better the liars' stories become. The more sophisticated the stories, the more advanced the techniques required to detect them. The more intelligent the species, individual or group, the more deceptive it is.
In her talk, she highlights a few signs that we can learn to look out for, to recognise both honest and dishonest people, and a few ways of trying them.
• Duping delight
A couple interested me, the first was "duping delight" ... the unconscious thrill or happiness of the liar as fooling the lied to. She showed how this even breaks out as a smile or a laugh on the face of the one lying. I remember how we laughed sometimes as BKs at some act of duping a VIP or outsider, or Dadi Janki literally laughing at "... we tell people everything is for free, but then we takes everything".
• Leaked expressions
She encourages people to watch out for leaked expressions, especially those expression of contempt when anger turns to contempt, your looked down upon or 'dismissed' and I remembered flick of the hands, heads being turned away, little snaps used to bring junior BKs into lines. Mostly, I thought, senior BKs, like Jayanti Kripalani, Miriam before she left, Mohini, even BK Shivani are extremely controlled and that is part of the training of a BK.
Dr Hansa Raval, the BK leader who started legal action against us but turned out to have had a secret marriage and affair as a BK center-in-charge, all absolutely against Shrimat, is a perfect example; like a "Bill Clinton" of the BKWSU. Her fraudulent visa applications, in which she claimed high paid Indian BK Brothers in IT were "priests" working in the community in order to get an American visa, are wonderful examples of much of this. As was the hierarchies support of her.
• Honest response
Interestingly, Meyer points out honest people will far more often recommend strict punishment, and dishonest ones ... not.
• Clusters
Meyer talks about how to look not for single signs but clusters of sings, e.g. the use of overly formal not simple and informal language, choices of words used to distancing the individuals, e.g. not referring to them by name but by some title, using specific language to discredit the subject or threat and the putting up of barrier objects or body language like point one's feet towards the exit of wherever the liar is being confronted.
Half-truths covering a bigger lie or a lack of straight answers, e.g. a thief being accused to "taking" someone's belongings will answer, "I don't have them" not "I did not take them". To say, "I don't 'have' them" may well be true ... the thief might have already passed them on ... but it masks that they did also 'take' them.
She also says, "over-sharing is not honesty". It can be another trick. or cover up ... "too much irrelevant information".
Another video is here.