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Everyone has to do with power and powerlessness. Everyone has been in a situation where they abused their power or has been abused by the power that someone or a group exercised over them.
Most people grew up with parents who interacted with them as if they knew better what is good for their children and what they need. That usually started on day one, in which it was not looking at the needs of the baby but where a schedule was followed when the child was to be fed. Most children unlearn following their own needs. A parent exercises power over a child, because they do not have the skills to deal with their children without coercion, manipulation or control. One can see that power emanates from impotence. Because the parent has not learned to recognize their own needs and to communicate, it will also exercise power over themselves in the form of suppressing their own feelings and needs. Thereby parents will rather deal with their children from standards, by making clear what is acceptable behaviour and what is not.
Most people have learned as a child that you better trust another, i.e. rather their parents or other adults than themselves. They have lost a larger or smaller part of their power. Because they often could not openly make use of their power, they are indirectly continue to exercise their power, as people they become in very different ways a stooge of others. Often this is not clearly visible because it was not accepted and certainly not like girls. We learned to suppress our own interests and needs for the benefit of others, because that was needed to survive and not to fall outside the group.
The world is populated by people who have lost the power over themselves because they are going to suppress their own needs. Often they do not feel it no longer. This also applies to secular leaders and a lot of spiritual leaders. Also, many of which are far removed from himself. To me, this seems to be more extreme in all layers of society.
As long as you are suppressing yourself, you will have less quickly have an eye on the oppression of others. As long as it is familiar to you that others decide for you what is good for you, you will easily relinquish power. Others can only scare you for the devil, Maya etc if you are afraid of the devil (or evil) in yourself. The devil or Maya is not something outside of you but in yourself. If you have faced the evil in yourself, you have nothing to fear and you can see outside yourself to others with compassion.
If you have been damaged by abuse of power in your childhood, you are vulnerable to manipulation. The desire for healing and to fulfil the needs that ever have remained unfulfilled, can make you open to ideologies that promise you a better world and for achieving happiness. This also applies to organizations that promise you wealth and prestige. In addition, some (religious or spiritual) groups say also that you are chosen, that you are very special and better than the remaining world. Finally, you will be recognized! Finally you will be seen in who you are. That can give you a great sense of power.
After some time, you have been affiliated with a group or organization where you stepped in with heart and soul because of the ideology and promises which have been made, it may be clear that it was less ideological than you thought and not free. The organizational structures may become too tight. Depending on your survival patterns you can live with or not. Some are easy going, accustomed as they are to want to prove, to be a ringleader and wanting to flatter or just to conform. If you’re not so good at, it can be difficult because you're less important. Others will exert power over you if you do not yourself.
If you decide to get out of such a group or organization it can be very difficult, because it can feel like leaving your family or that you lose your only opportunity to achieve liberation. Then you may be quite disillusioned, angry and even psychologically dislocated. You did not receive what you searched for. The unfulfilled needs are still not met. Not by others, because it could not. Once outside the group you can stay mad and continue to accuse the authorities as it were your parents who have not taken their responsibility by not fulfilling your needs.
As long as you do not know how you can take responsibility for your own needs, you will continue to put it in another, you openly or in hidden way require that others do, that others want to care for you. You will accuse others of the power they exert and meanwhile you also exercise power in a way that is not free. In any position or function that you hold you can exercise power, in which it is important to get something better for yourself. Power is largely used to be important, to be someone and exercise control. You will strengthen your own position because it is necessary for you and therefore unfree, thus always at the expense of another.
If you want a different world then you can only change your own world, by becoming aware of your needs and take responsibility for them. If you want a peaceful world it is important that you are no longer practicing violence to yourself and your body, and you stop to suppress yourself. If you are free in expressing your feelings and emotions, you can also let free another. If you are so free that you can fully live your power and light, then you unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
© Wonieka A. Meuter
I made an English translation for this blog, I have written it on 04-01-13 at http://ont-wikkelennaarheel-zijn.wordpress.com I am not very good in English, so excuse for the insufficient translation.
Most people grew up with parents who interacted with them as if they knew better what is good for their children and what they need. That usually started on day one, in which it was not looking at the needs of the baby but where a schedule was followed when the child was to be fed. Most children unlearn following their own needs. A parent exercises power over a child, because they do not have the skills to deal with their children without coercion, manipulation or control. One can see that power emanates from impotence. Because the parent has not learned to recognize their own needs and to communicate, it will also exercise power over themselves in the form of suppressing their own feelings and needs. Thereby parents will rather deal with their children from standards, by making clear what is acceptable behaviour and what is not.
Most people have learned as a child that you better trust another, i.e. rather their parents or other adults than themselves. They have lost a larger or smaller part of their power. Because they often could not openly make use of their power, they are indirectly continue to exercise their power, as people they become in very different ways a stooge of others. Often this is not clearly visible because it was not accepted and certainly not like girls. We learned to suppress our own interests and needs for the benefit of others, because that was needed to survive and not to fall outside the group.
The world is populated by people who have lost the power over themselves because they are going to suppress their own needs. Often they do not feel it no longer. This also applies to secular leaders and a lot of spiritual leaders. Also, many of which are far removed from himself. To me, this seems to be more extreme in all layers of society.
As long as you are suppressing yourself, you will have less quickly have an eye on the oppression of others. As long as it is familiar to you that others decide for you what is good for you, you will easily relinquish power. Others can only scare you for the devil, Maya etc if you are afraid of the devil (or evil) in yourself. The devil or Maya is not something outside of you but in yourself. If you have faced the evil in yourself, you have nothing to fear and you can see outside yourself to others with compassion.
If you have been damaged by abuse of power in your childhood, you are vulnerable to manipulation. The desire for healing and to fulfil the needs that ever have remained unfulfilled, can make you open to ideologies that promise you a better world and for achieving happiness. This also applies to organizations that promise you wealth and prestige. In addition, some (religious or spiritual) groups say also that you are chosen, that you are very special and better than the remaining world. Finally, you will be recognized! Finally you will be seen in who you are. That can give you a great sense of power.
After some time, you have been affiliated with a group or organization where you stepped in with heart and soul because of the ideology and promises which have been made, it may be clear that it was less ideological than you thought and not free. The organizational structures may become too tight. Depending on your survival patterns you can live with or not. Some are easy going, accustomed as they are to want to prove, to be a ringleader and wanting to flatter or just to conform. If you’re not so good at, it can be difficult because you're less important. Others will exert power over you if you do not yourself.
If you decide to get out of such a group or organization it can be very difficult, because it can feel like leaving your family or that you lose your only opportunity to achieve liberation. Then you may be quite disillusioned, angry and even psychologically dislocated. You did not receive what you searched for. The unfulfilled needs are still not met. Not by others, because it could not. Once outside the group you can stay mad and continue to accuse the authorities as it were your parents who have not taken their responsibility by not fulfilling your needs.
As long as you do not know how you can take responsibility for your own needs, you will continue to put it in another, you openly or in hidden way require that others do, that others want to care for you. You will accuse others of the power they exert and meanwhile you also exercise power in a way that is not free. In any position or function that you hold you can exercise power, in which it is important to get something better for yourself. Power is largely used to be important, to be someone and exercise control. You will strengthen your own position because it is necessary for you and therefore unfree, thus always at the expense of another.
If you want a different world then you can only change your own world, by becoming aware of your needs and take responsibility for them. If you want a peaceful world it is important that you are no longer practicing violence to yourself and your body, and you stop to suppress yourself. If you are free in expressing your feelings and emotions, you can also let free another. If you are so free that you can fully live your power and light, then you unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
© Wonieka A. Meuter
I made an English translation for this blog, I have written it on 04-01-13 at http://ont-wikkelennaarheel-zijn.wordpress.com I am not very good in English, so excuse for the insufficient translation.