Megan Phelps-Roper is a 27-year old woman who was a key member, potential leader and relative of the founder of Westboro Baptist Church, a notoriously hardline Christian cult in America famous for its "God Hate Fags" posters and outrageous picketing and statements. It featured in numerous TV shows spouting its uncompromising Biblical faith.
She was, in short, an 'Om Radhe' or Sister Jayanti Kripalani of her religion.
In an unbelievable turn around of fortunes, she and Sister Grace have recently left the cult proving that it can and does happen. Megan and Grace join the many thousands of people trying to rediscover their lives again after exiting a cult.
About being in and then leaving such a tight cult, @meganphelps noted:
The follow up, here portrays the inner struggle of wanting to leave well. Of exiting members they say, "[everyone] that leaves is job security for the rest of us ... every rebel that goes takes away a heavy burden".
She was, in short, an 'Om Radhe' or Sister Jayanti Kripalani of her religion.
In an unbelievable turn around of fortunes, she and Sister Grace have recently left the cult proving that it can and does happen. Megan and Grace join the many thousands of people trying to rediscover their lives again after exiting a cult.
Megan Phelps wrote:Until very recently, this is what I lived, breathed, studied, believed, preached – loudly, daily, and for nearly 27 years. I never thought it would change. I never wanted it to. Then suddenly: it did.
And I left.
Where do you go from there?
I don’t know, exactly. My Sister Grace is with me, though. We’re trying to figure it out together.
About being in and then leaving such a tight cult, @meganphelps noted:
It has little to do with age, I think. Once that worldview is established, it’s almost impermeable to outside viewpoints or logic (which you're preemptively told are evil and heavily warned against).
I suppose you can say there's technically a choice (as in, that people of age have a legal right to decide or something), but for most of my life, I never saw leaving – or anything other than staying and doing what they said (believing it was what God said) – as a real option. Leaving was sadness, and Hell, and destruction, and losing the only family, friends, faith, truth I'd ever known. It simply wasn't on the table.
I suppose you can also say, "You grow up and you see that it's hateful and hurtful, and it's a choice to continue there" – but the simple process of aging doesn't make you more mature or able to see outside the only framework you've ever been taught. That requires more than years.
In fact: I'd say the longer you live in that environment, the harder it is to see that there are choices. You become hardened in The Knowledge that only [the cult] is right, and you cannot see the things they have wrong. It's in your very best interest to beat back any doubts you have, and to overlook every inconsistency – because if they're wrong, you lose everything.
I guess what I am saying is: to me, the word "choice" implies a conscious decision – and at least in my experience, that consciousness wasn't there until the very end of my time at [the cult].
The follow up, here portrays the inner struggle of wanting to leave well. Of exiting members they say, "[everyone] that leaves is job security for the rest of us ... every rebel that goes takes away a heavy burden".