Mann wrote:The piece of information I am looking for here is that how did the ones who live at the center finally leave. I cannot just pack while others are sleeping.
You seem to see through the system very well, the elders being as trapped but lacking the courage or willpower to leave to themselves. A BK leaving is obviously a challenge to everyone else as part of them wants to too.
In my case, of just leaving a bhavan, I was trapped by the lack of money to get alternative accommodation and had to just keep quiet until I had saved up enough and then left. I did not discuss the matter with anyone. Like many BKs, I had a low paying career, which left me free to do service, and gave the little extra I had in donations to the centre so there was a difficult time for me until I could be free.
Part of deciding to leave is also decided to not allow these - excuse my strength of language but - idiots to have any power or influence over me any more. When I finally got out it, and was free, it was like being re-born and looking at the world with new eyes again.
I did make a statement to my centre about why I was leaving but I did it during a social event/performance so they thought it was part of a funny act. It was because I wanted to do some real good in the world, where people really needed it, rather than chasing after VIPs etc. I had been critical of that before at an important service meeting, supported by the class, put put down strictly by the Seniors for having said it - having challenged their authority and ideas over self-promotion and chasing VIP - and it was at that time I knew I did not want to be their servant any more, that they were not truly spiritual or enlightened.
And that was back when they and the Murlis were preaching Destruction in 1986. I had no idea the Murlis were being re-written and altered by them to keep us hooked.
Some BKs keep a half and half relationship, leaving, getting married or having a relationship, and going back when they want. The BKs have come to accept that but there are always the strings attach to try and pull you or your family back in.
My decision, for me, was proven to be the right one as Destruction did not happen in 1986, or 1986 to 1996 as they preached "God" was saying. It was all just a scam, they playing the same scam today, and they will still be playing the same scam in 2036 when the Golden Age was supposed to start.
There is some kind of psychic power in BKism, I do not disagree with that. But "power" and "goodness" or "enlightenment" are not the same things. There is a sort of psychic which has been built up over the decades but it is more about gaining worldly power and wealth. That is what has been proven to me by what they have become.
They are still lying and deceiving and manipulating ... and none of that is "pure" or "good" or "spiritual". By now, the Iron Age should have been destroyed and the Golden Age be in the process of being built and they are no where near karmateet. Indeed, for all they have done, they are deeper into Karma than they were before.
Therefore, my strong advice would just be to do it quietly. Say nothing, discuss nothing until you have left and then tell them, in a letter or whatever, why and how things are ... you determine the relationship. If you want Murlis or texts or invitation then accept them; if you don't, then tell them clearly.
Take a break and see how you feel. You can always go back if you want. Trust me, you won't be gaining or losing "a place in the 108". That's just kids' stuff to keep people at that level hooked.
As Pink writes, "they are a family when they want something, and an organisation when you need something" (meaning it's a one way relationship, and you won't or cannot have anything back). I, too, know numerous individuals who have been locked out of centres after having given for years to it.
Some people re-adjust quickly and put BKism behind them, start a normal life and relationship again. Many have children etc. Others find it difficult. If you do, we will be hear to discuss things with you.