I have also realised that having my rank changed from 'ex BK' to 'BK supporter' by the administrator/s is no bad thing, a BK reader may possibly be more open to what I contribute. Very cunning! (Now you're cooking Forum Admin dudes!).
To issues at hand - Having re-read the full series in this topic, I do believe that I have already answered most of the questions, even those asked after my brilliantly dramatic departure - about my 'relationship' with the BKs etc. If, after you review the exchange, you are still not satisfied, please ask again nicely, maybe use simpler terminology that may get through to this knucklehead (me) so I know exactly what you want to know. But please do not disbelieve me, misrepresent me and keep fishing, I have not withheld information, I am straightforward. Anyone who knows me will tell you that.
Are all new contributors required to take on some form of initiation task to prove themselves worthy ? It was strongly suggested I adopt a cause,
on 10th Jan ex-l wrote:You take one incident ... issue or whatever, research it, present it and see what happens. What about, e.g. the teenage girls having to surrender their dowries so that "the poor" are not dumped on the BKWSU? ... Hansa Raval ... legal action ... etc.)
Why do I keep getting asked about things that you know more about, or have access to details of, than I do? As I have said all along, and agreeing with ex-l who said the same thing in his inimitable way "You have been out of the game too long. You really don't know what is going on." Truer every day, at least to do with episodes BK.
Here in the antipodes, there's not many Kumaris with dowries I am afraid (how about researching what Kumaris look like in bikinis at Bondi? Do they have to be Brahma Kumaris? A number of great working titles come to mind - What sarong with BK Mohini in a bikini? ) . My contribution, to answer your question, is to share my perspective. If that is not a reader's cup of tea, there's always the next topic to read.
Actions speak louder than words we'd all agree. Maybe after I have worked my three jobs, been a Father to my daughter, had a surf and some dinner, cleaned up house, find time to do bills and tax papers, then when that's up to speed, check if the gullible are still being skimmed. In the meantime, a few words on a blog giving alternative views is all I can do for the BK/anti-BK thingy.
Tom joined in Jan 10th too (what a date!) with some bolshi (Bush-i) doublespeak, full of presumptions, to accuse (yes, again accusations, why?) of my being a BK apologist and performing a job to distract the 'activists".
So, what is it about my position on the Torch's letters that disgusts you Tom? The idea of effective targeting of "winnable" battles (like Eugene the Great - learnt from Alexander e' did) by using undeniable evidence, and not diluting it with secondary issues and grievances? Tom, a number of others wrote with similar sentiments, yet they did not bother you? What possessed you?
Maybe you are right, and what's needed is a mass exorcism to set the BK institution to rights (so that'd make you a Christian, even if you don't go to church. Or an animist? Even tho' you lost your Mojo - 'cause it's what you believe). You, as a declared activist, can decide which tactic may succeed better in action, I am only a "Terry" like all the others. My opinion is not as valuable. But I do agree with you Tom that ex-l is amazing in his work load (may Metis guide his task so that Prometheus might be freed).
ex-l wrote: "I did not ask you for information about the child abuse case".
Yes, you did.
10 Jan "let's take the child abuse case. What happened? Show us your metal"
Is that not a question to me? And again, after I said I knew little but shared my very limited knowledge, am again accused with being "misleading" ... "damage control'". BTW, The joke about the Jewish mother and the ties was not meant to be a distraction. It was to comment that, whatever I said, there was something wrong (and maybe you love me like a jewish mother?)
Paul Kershaw - thank you for your quote from Serge Kahili King - it penetrated.
ex-l on 15th jan again makes a lot of presumptions and asks questions about my family life, even though I said I would not discuss it publicly, and wrote a private message to him with a bit more detail than was posted. I will add that only a little of what you say is relevant to our situation, the rest may be true for others or your experience, it is not here. No further response publicly about my family life.
Jan 15th, ex-l wrote:would like to know why you felt you had to defend the Brahma Kumaris and on what grounds ... 21st Jan - ... the erroneous or misleading statements, the BK samo-samo, that he was writing. Half way between fluff and cover up.
I have no intention to defend them at all. At most, I am explaining them, from where I stand now, from having been one, and also what I know about people generally. That's why I believe frontal attack is not the way to get them to change.
There's a difference between "getting them to change" and "trying to change them". (The job of the psychiatrists, however many there are, is to make the light bulb want to change.) I used to be angry about the BKs and I understand the anger of a lot of contributors. Why am I no longer angry, especially with all the cases of corruption and abuse on these pages? Because I realised that it is to be angry at humanity. Because BKs are a collective grouping, like any other (as ex-l rightly points out in terms of Duty of Care etc). I accept humanity (collectively) as it is.
Sting wrote:"People go crazy in congregations, they only get better one by one". Quoting his fa[i]ther in the song "All This Time" from the album 'The Soul Cages[/i].
on 16th Jan Leela wrote:Now, I am no psychologist, (where's Terry when you need him!)
Neither am I, i.e. I am self taught, no paper degree, and that goes for everything I do professionally or otherwise. I like to think that, just as Jesus was a carpenter, Jung a medical doctor, Socrates a stone mason, any healthy, inquiring and creative mind can grasp and develop original wisdom Thank you for the rest of your kind words Leela, I will try not to throw any tantrums again, regardless of typefaced provocations.
Frisbee me lad - Mr Miyagi? Wax on, w@^k off? I walk neither left , right or centre of BK road, I took a left turn a long time ago and have entered ... F#^*Me! The EX BK Forum!!