paulkershaw wrote:Posts like this should be compiled into book form called "The Life of an ex-Yogi" and it will be a besteller.
Could I suggest ... nay, could I trademark even ... "Autobiography of an ex-Yogi"? Damn ... did I just put that out into the ether and give it all away?
Sukhi,
I am a kind of nuts and bolts person. I am more focused on the practical aspects of a problem. I like to focus on one small issue and then try and slow it right down, like a slow-motion movie.
Would I be stepping out of line to make the following suggestion? Instead of rushing towards a conclusion, there are still small steps you could take. In fact, this happened to a friend in real life. Not a post-BKs life. It was nothing to do with BK-ism and they had no BK inhibitions to stop them. But I know the women was very glad that it did and they took their time.
Its not necessary to rush right to full consummation ... this suggestion will be equally enjoyable for your husband as well. What I suggest is just going half-way to begin with. Your husband is obviously understanding and so I am sure will be able to work with this.
There is a very loving sexual position where the man lies behind the woman in what is known as "the spoons", like two spoons laying together in a drawer. The woman does not feel dominated or pinned down, the man is able to gently caress and stimulate her from behind. Its something that you probably do already before sleep (especially if you live in a cold climate now!). Its also a position where the man is able to penetrate the woman in both a gentle and shallow manner.
I was going to suggest that what you could do is just go to the next level, without going all the way. Go to playful, gentle, experimental penetration without having to go to full intercourse. Your husband can still touch you, he will get a lot of pleasure out of it. It could also lead you to greater closeness. Just lie their together, breathing, connecting but not having to move very much at all. The nice thing is, you can spend a long time like that listening to music, a raga perhaps, even chatting. If there is any embarrassment of intimacy, you do not even have to look into your partner's eyes. You are also in control and can simply move away if you wish.
This would give you a chance to see if the world WAS going to fall on her head afterwards ... I don't think it will personally. I don't go around wearing a hard hat and it has not fallen on mine yet. It is also exactly the same kind of stuff you will hear in tantra or professional sexual counselling. I do not detract from what others have written one inch ... but I am just trying to save you from the expense!
See what you think.