Dear
enlightened,
I hope, that you have put your rings, badges, Shiv Baba posters, stickers, photos from Brahma Baba and from the Seniors, traffic control songs, Madhuban music cassettes, meditation commentaries and CDs, together with your Madhuban shawls, saris, kurtas and Madhuban t-shirts away. Anything which would trigger your remembrance and addiction would prolong your healing process. I hope, that you don't do the usual way of BK meditation any more and stay away from the center which for sure would trigger your channeling to the spirit guides of the BKs.
I hope also, that you take distance from your beloved BK friends, even from those who with good intention want to stay in touch with you. This relationship will also not help you. Just like a recovering alcoholic should stay away from favorite pubs and old friends.
If you have been forcing yourself without being ready to date with a nice man or went out and met lokik friends and came shocked and frustrated home, feeling yourself like a stranger to this world and naive like a child, take also for a while distance from all of them, retreat, until you get healed. Lokik friends' thought pattern and conversation habits may come too strange and too rude to you if you are not ready yet to confront the real world, which could cause a reverse effect and you could feel depressed.
I know indeed some center niwassi BKs who are because of their families since their early childhood grew up on Dadis' laps. Although for a lokik observer these guys seem to live today a relatively "normal" life of a celibate and vegetarian yogi having friends from lokik contact persons, without missing much from social life like occasionally cinemas, cafes, sports and holidays, they could not manage until now to rescue their mindset from the BKs. They never wanted to. You however, have been so strong and have liberated yourself from the BK slavery, only need some time and professional help to digest your past BK life without blaming yourself until you adjust yourself to your new life and enjoy it fully.
Reading the posts of this forum, starting from the earliest ones, and writing to us whatever comes to your mind, will help you as it helped me to recover fully.
For noncommercial professional help here are the links to the websites of the two most important organizations concerned with cult like organizations:
FECRIS (European Federation of Centres Research and Information on Sectarianism)
http://www.apologeticsindex.org/f22.html F.A.C.T.net (Fight Against Coercive Tactics Network) http://www.factnet.org/ on which homepage you will find in the index,
Guide to Cult Recovery
* The Cult Healing Hub
* Cult Discussion Board
* Cult-Help Experts
* Cult-Help Organizations
* Cult Support Groups
* How to be an Activist
* Recommended Books
* Internet Resources on Cults
* Cult Discussion Board
and links to many interesting articles for all cult victims, like this one from a former cult member advising to sue the Seniors of the cult
today:
“Twenty five years of helping cult victims has thoroughly convinced me that the wrongdoing by destructive cults will stop ONLY when ALL profit is removed from that wrongdoing by holding the cult’s top executives PERSONALLY accountable before the law! If you or a loved one has been harmed by a cult, get a lawyer and sue the cult’s senior executives today. They are ultimately responsible for the harm that the cult has caused you and your loved ones. By getting full legal and financial restitution from the cult’s ill gotten profits you will not only help make your life whole again you will also do the most effective thing possible to prevent the cult from doing the same harm to others. Be encouraged, there are now many legal precedents established on cult abuse and mind control. Destructive cults have already paid former cult members hundreds of millions of dollars either though secret out-of-court settlements, pre-trial settlements or through enforced court judgments. Stop letting your former cult keep victimizing you. Use the law to go get your life made whole again and to help stop the wrongdoing, I did.”
– Lawrence Wollersheim co-founder of Factnet, former cult member. Was paid a total of 9.2 plus million dollars in court judgments by the Scientology cult.
Dear enlightened, write us about your observations.You are not alone.