Hi. Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your posts.
Well ... be careful, especially over property if that matters to you. Get that cleared up RIGHT NOW ... or accept that it is a write off and will be given to the BKWSU. I would suggest moving away from the family to where they do not have so much contact!
I think you should consider that most BKs are going to see the BKWSU as "their family" first, and not their physical family. Their physical family are called "lokiks" and is used in a derogatory manner as obstacles or burdens. This is very deeply and heavily implanted into their minds. They believe they have spent eternity with other BKs and "lokiks" are ignorant, impure, bad karma etc. Of course, they will have "good wishes" that you will become a BK too and project that you have some kind of karma that will bring you closer to them and the BKWSU.
Yes, BKs can be highly bigoted. At the user level, there is very little to no flexibility to their beliefs, they are "Brahmins" and have God speaking directly to them telling them what is true ... you are an ignorant, "body-conscious" "Shudra" full of your own opinions (manmat) which are worth less then nothing. That is a fact.
They will take you to centers where you will be fed holy sweeties full of "vibrations" to catch you and the senior Sisters will stare at you trying to hypnotise you ... although they will claim it is something else.
The thing to do is read up here on their beliefs, pick up on some of the historical revision stuff that will actually surprise them (we know a lot more than most average BKs and the BKWSU have been changing their history all along). We can decipher their language for you.
In fact, if you recommend this site to them ... you will probably never hear of them again (but they might spend hours telling you how wrong and evil we are)!
Please ask any specific question you might have and see also, bkwsuwatch.com.
Interesting union to have so young, I hope you have a good life together. Please bear in mind that veganism or vegetarianism, on its own, is not a bad or cultie thing and is good for the environment!