littleo wrote:My point was that one has to be careful not to break the family by estranging the people away from the BK member, that is as bad as BK being estranged to his family.
I would disagree.
The BKs profit from good relationships with individuals and families, the old "sugar in the milk" approach beloved of Sindis ... or as we say in the West, "You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar".
It goes back to that equation they've learned that while 100% of someone or something is best, 'something' is better than 'nothing'; and so keep sweet with families is profitable for them because at some point they might at least get something out of them ... however little or perhaps a lot, e.g. some other members to surrender.
I am sorry to say that I have had DIRECT experience of leading Brahma Kumaris teaching me (or "giving me Shrimat") to DIRECTLY lie to and deceive my family in order to manipulate them. That is a fact. I know that is what they do.
Consequently, I take a hardline with them because in what Inventor has written so far, I see all the usual signs of BKism.
My advice would be to a) inform oneself to know what the BKs are really all about, b) talk nicely to the family member who is being enculted, c) give them a choice, "either this family or the BK family", and d) if they chose the BKs tell then cut them off completely ... until the time when they decide to finish with the BKs forever. No half-and-halfs and absolutely no supporting the Brahma Kumaris with goods, money or properties.
It might be seem difficult ... painful even ... but it is less painful than the alternative of seeing your family in flesh in front of you ... but lost and dead inside. The individual being attracted to the BKs also have to learn what the BKs are really like too ... that they have no interest in looking after other people or supporting them in the way an ordinary family might, and that BKs have other priorities of the BKs and the BKWSU first, and families last.
99 out of 100 families will come forward to support their child in times of trouble or need. 99 times out of 100 the BKWSU will not.
The BKWSU will depend on the family to do so, thereby cutting its costs.
There is no point a family investing their time, energy and money supporting an individual if that individual is then pouring it all down the drain of the BKWSU so they can spend it chasing VIPs. Families are far better off pouring their own time, energy and money down their own drains ... or giving it to a real charity.