avidbkhater wrote: ... she blames me that I am only concerned because of the celibacy ... and that all I care about.
What disgusts me about the BKs is how, on one hand, they claim to be so superior; and yet, on the other, one has to constantly cut through layer after layer of dishonesty, deception and half-truth.
It's not "just about the celibacy" because BKism is not just about sexual celibacy, BKism is also about the mental and emotional detachment ... actually an 'infidelity' towards the married partner. Infidelity meaning a ‘disloyalty’ towards towards the partner (Baba become the lover and husband). A ‘disloyalty’ that gradually extends to enmity as the partner to whom they are supposed to be vowed become a burden or obstacle (literally, in BK terms).
Anyone who has been a BKs and listened to the Murli class has heard this 1,000 times and know it ... and yet they won't admit it even as the sworn relationship is falling apart.
The BK leaders play a part in the gradual falling apart of married couples, the taming of the husband, and encourage the BK with tactics (yuktis) to use, therefore they know it all well (
local BK center-in-charges will report such cases to zones-in-charge and take their advice). This is also means nothing is private for the couples ... it travels the length of the BK family.
You don't end up "living as Brother and Sister", you end up living like two strangers, with the husband acting as financial provider and driver for the wife to play out her BK fantasy roles until she divorces or get the property.
I admire V78 for taking back his power and taking matters outside of the BK comfort zone. That is what you need to do. Do not play into their hands and allow them to control things, create a scene. If you create a big enough scene, they will often drop the BK child or partner to save themselves the trouble. And look, even at such a point, the BKs are still into controling the situation as much as possible, by not accepting his proposal of an open discussion and micromanaging individuals privately.
What about discussing their role in the relationship and asking them about what they encouraged the woman to do secretly? What practical punishment or disciplines will the BK receive (
the answer is basically none, the worst punishment is banishment, before that being banned from going to Madhuban for a year of good behaviour).
I can imagine his ex-wife will even get sympathy from them for having to deal with such a "devilish" body-conscious Shudra (BK terms) as him. Even though she did the wrong on two level.
Congratulations. If she feel uncomfortable, you can remind her that as a BK this will happen to her every 5,000 Year Kalpa for the rest of eternity, according to their beliefs, and that she has destroyed her fortune and will face punishment at Dharamraj.