Hi Em,
Please be aware as I write, I was a BK (in the 1980s), so I've seen things from the inside, know their beliefs very well, and have felt the madness or it all ... the addiction to the high experiences and chasing them.
However, over years of observing them, I've gone from being supportive (as a non-follower) fooled by the facade which I thought made them a good example of religion - mostly because all of the sh*t about them was so well hidden (this was before the internet) - to being extremely critical and concerned about them. I spoken to many families and individuals going through such experiences. What's remarkable about them is how similar they are. Everything you are reporting is absolutely typical and accurate of their beliefs and actions.
And no need to apologise, this is what we are here for.
A couple of important legal issues here;
a) How old are the youngest children, are they minors? (By "pure", I am supposing you mean she is a 'virgin' and the mother is lining her up to become a BK ... this is also very common amongst Indian women, the mothers seek to try and live through their virgin daughters and gain merits by "surrendering them" to the BK organization. Essentially that means enslaving them to the cult).
Depending on her/their ages, there may be legal leverage here to involve social services (... but don't have high hopes on that).
b) Is she committing benefit fraud to spend all of her time on the cult?
Lastly, are there other family members, e.g. uncles and aunties?
At her state, I would have zero hope of counsellors/therapists/community leaders have any influence as the BKWSU sets adherents up to see them as impure, ignorant or ever evil ... and has many well defined and practised defenses against them.
I think you should be angry and you should get involved. Don't be duped by "liberal" or "politically correct" eye wash ... a parasitical cult is destroying your loved one's family, sucking away time and money that should be spent on it. That is its. This is what the Brahma Kumaris do. I've been studying them, and cultic dynamics generally, for 10 years now and what they do is induce a kind of mental illness and exploit the individuals held under it. Many Westeners are fooled to think it is just "Hinduism" or something ... that is also what the BKs do ... but it's not. It's a high demand, thought reform, deeply brainwashing cult.
Trust me, if the kids were to end up on the street, their education and socialising ruined, the family funds emptied, the BKs would not give a ****. As you say, they'd just turn around and say, "It's their karma".
Presumably she was taking all sort of gifts to the BKWSU in India trying to gain favour out there? It's also a fantasy for followers to want to move to India, but the BKWSU prefers them to stay where they are, support local centres, and evangelize.
Here is the dynamic I think you try and exploit and I am happy to help you do so.
The local centres are run at arms length and must support themselves but are answerable to a Zone-in-Charge. Forget the local zone-in-charge in Canada, the North American one is Mohini Panjabi in New York ... and we've had run-ins with her before. Generally, what goes on at local centres is not known by the zone-in-charge ... until it becomes a problem ... at which point the zone-in-charge will come down on the local centre-in-charge.
The one thing the BKs care most about - after money - is their reputation and so that is what you are aiming at.
Because of the need to raise money, have unpaid labour, local centres-in-charge cut corners and encourage on adherents that they should not and too far. They are under pressure from the zone-in-charge to make money and keep the business afloat.
Now, even from a proper BK point of view, they call it "Pukka" ... what is going on is wrong.
Absolutely.
This woman, who may well be suffering some kind of mental illness ([i]it happens often[/i), on top of - perhaps - cultural dissonance to the mainstream Canadian culture (e.g. was she born there or "imported" via marriage), is being whipped up into an ever greater self and family damaging delusion ... we can discuss what they teach and how this happens if you want.
What I would suggest you doing is write a 'full-on' letter threatening further action, documenting what is going on, and sending it to the primary zone-in-charge, including telling them you are being advise by us.
I could almost guarantee you this will bring about change, the zone-in-charge coming down on the local centre-in-charge, the centre-in-charge advising the mothers to change her ways and backing off.
In that letter, I would demand an account of how much money they have taken off her and, if possible, have it supported by other family members.
You can see why the age of the children is an issue here. If they are minors, you will have some good leverage over them.
You need to do some more checking in with us and unraveling here to get clear in your mind what is BKism and what is just her own particular brand of crazy/hormones etc and to decypher some of the BK language, concepts and attitudes towards others ... but I am happy to help you do write that and make sure it hits some specifically BK issues.
As further self-defence, I'd get her family members to do some research as to what is happening in India, e.g. she might be planning on abducting the youngest child. Does she have family in India she might land on ... what do they think of BK? Does she have enough money to buy property in Mount Abu (their headquarters) and is she planning that?
The BKs also offer 'deals' to such women where if they drop enough money on them, they will allow the women to live in one of their centres and becoming "surrendered".
Lastly, please allow me to underline the threat to the youngst daughter being abducted and donated to the BKWSU. It's generally a life sentence - on call 24 hours, 7 days a week, with no pay, no holidays and no way out.
Again, it's cultural and fairly typical of them.
If she's significantly young, it may be a case for the social services ... although the BKs' facade is so good, it might take some convincing of them to get involved. Perhaps one of the older children might become a legal guardian for her?
Please take all this very seriously.
I think you best options in the first place is dropping a "handgrenade" of a letter on the BKWSO leader in the USA ... but try and tie up as many of the legal and financial loose ends beforehand.