Similar thing here. Your Father has got new love- spiritual, but you cannot understand it.
What you say is not entirely correct mbbhat and I agree with what you give.
However, a BK must know that they must first and foremost not give any sorrow. Sometimes even that sorrow is indirectly caused. For anyone to become an angel or a diety, how can any sorrow be caused.
Hence whilst the reasoning explained is correct as accordance to Gyan, it is the practical application of it which has caused a large amount of sorrow, in this thread, to Alanna.
Hence the immaturity or misunderstanding is not of that of Alanna's but that of the BK in question (her lokik Father).
Each relationship between any two souls is unique and what works of one does not necessarily work for another. Even the Father has a different conenction for all his children.
A BK is not only living in his/her own spiritual ideal but must also realise that he/she lives in a world of their own non-ideals. And it is often the latter where they cause much sorrow, whereas it should be the place where they need much attention and care. It is always a safe haven inside a BK centre, but it is outside where angels and saints are realised.
That is what real effort making means, and much effort making by BKs have caused a lot of sorrow. At times, the sorrow has been caused indirectly or unknowingly, but however many paths it goes through, it eventually leads back to the source (i.e. the BK in question). And that BK can most often carelessly reverts that sorrow to Baba, say during meditation and Amrit Vela. Baba, who is the Ocean of Forgiveness, will always fogive, but the accumulated punishments for that BK will still continue to accumulate.
BKs who live with family members need to carefully remind themselves of their position, and not be affected by other (BKs) who are not in the situation. The karma with your lokiks in your last birth is extremely high, and are specially chosen for you in your last birth, so a BK must not take them too lightly and carelessly.
(Even after all these years, Dadis and very senior BKs talk about their lokiks (as well as alokiks)).