Kate,
Remember the old saying, "if you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you, it is yours, if it doesn't... it never was?"
I was in a similar situation once with a BK man, and told the person of my affections that I really liked him but that I did not like the BK any longer. It was sort of an ultimatum: me or them. He was then free to choose on his own and he chose the BK. This freed me up as well and I was able to go on with my life. I am really really much happier now with a man who never knew the BK and has no interest in knowing about them either.
I really cannot add to what Mr. Green said because it's all too accurate, but I would like to also say that I had no interest in getting close to any of the Dadis although some kind of freak destiny placed me next to them without me asking or even wanting to be. It was all the BKs buzzing around me with a crazy look in their eyes asking me if I recognised my fortune that made me think twice about my personal meetings.
All that buzzing around was nothing less than the desire to be near them too. I was probably given this opportunity because, frankly, I was completely unimpressed by the whole circus. The meetings were absolutely nothing special. In fact, the worst day in my entire BK participation was my first and last private meeting with Jayanti and Dadi Gulzar. I was fool enough to speak to them honestly and innocently about my spiritual experiences only to be laughed at and treated like one of many of the queen's unenlightened little servants. Looking back though, that day saved me. When I saw the amount of ego and lack of spirituality these so-called leaders exhibited in private, I knew it was all a sham.
Kate, think about it clearly. The man you are considering to be with will continue to have problems if you choose to be with him while he is still in the BK mix. Let him get out and heal first and if you are meant to be together, he will come back to you. The BK influence is very deep and affects one's perception of love and tenderness. His affection is sincere, but that's because he is supposed to love all of humanity as his Brothers and Sisters. Romantic love is a different kind of affection. We love one person differently than we love our friends and family mainly because we feel a sexual attraction towards them. Without that, we are all Brothers and Sisters.
It would also be very helpful if you sought help for yourself as well. Letting go of a BK is not easy. But first you have to realise that you cannot save him. He needs to want to save himself first. There is often advice on this website suggesting you point out the facts without attacking the BKWSO which might get him thinking on his own. It's a good way to get his wheels turning. You need to be strong with yourself and with him. Get the facts from the forum, be clear about what and who you are dealing with and then make your decision. BKs can behave like immature adolescents when it comes to these situations. Run and hide, push and pull. Is this what you really want?
Remember the old saying, "if you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you, it is yours, if it doesn't... it never was?"
I was in a similar situation once with a BK man, and told the person of my affections that I really liked him but that I did not like the BK any longer. It was sort of an ultimatum: me or them. He was then free to choose on his own and he chose the BK. This freed me up as well and I was able to go on with my life. I am really really much happier now with a man who never knew the BK and has no interest in knowing about them either.
kate wrote:If I may recall, he mentioned that according to their cult leaders, the members here (exiting-BKs) tried to get higher positions, or to get closer to their gods. This very rare opportunity was given only to loyal servants. It was such a big gem to be closely associated with Dadi Janki, Gulzar & Jayanti. Due to their frustations, they decided to set up this site and defame BK which was used to be their chosen faith. In short, members here simply attacking BK as a revenge.
I really cannot add to what Mr. Green said because it's all too accurate, but I would like to also say that I had no interest in getting close to any of the Dadis although some kind of freak destiny placed me next to them without me asking or even wanting to be. It was all the BKs buzzing around me with a crazy look in their eyes asking me if I recognised my fortune that made me think twice about my personal meetings.
All that buzzing around was nothing less than the desire to be near them too. I was probably given this opportunity because, frankly, I was completely unimpressed by the whole circus. The meetings were absolutely nothing special. In fact, the worst day in my entire BK participation was my first and last private meeting with Jayanti and Dadi Gulzar. I was fool enough to speak to them honestly and innocently about my spiritual experiences only to be laughed at and treated like one of many of the queen's unenlightened little servants. Looking back though, that day saved me. When I saw the amount of ego and lack of spirituality these so-called leaders exhibited in private, I knew it was all a sham.
Kate, think about it clearly. The man you are considering to be with will continue to have problems if you choose to be with him while he is still in the BK mix. Let him get out and heal first and if you are meant to be together, he will come back to you. The BK influence is very deep and affects one's perception of love and tenderness. His affection is sincere, but that's because he is supposed to love all of humanity as his Brothers and Sisters. Romantic love is a different kind of affection. We love one person differently than we love our friends and family mainly because we feel a sexual attraction towards them. Without that, we are all Brothers and Sisters.
It would also be very helpful if you sought help for yourself as well. Letting go of a BK is not easy. But first you have to realise that you cannot save him. He needs to want to save himself first. There is often advice on this website suggesting you point out the facts without attacking the BKWSO which might get him thinking on his own. It's a good way to get his wheels turning. You need to be strong with yourself and with him. Get the facts from the forum, be clear about what and who you are dealing with and then make your decision. BKs can behave like immature adolescents when it comes to these situations. Run and hide, push and pull. Is this what you really want?