A idea frequently held by ex-members of a cult is, that when they remember their experiences, they believe there were also positive elements. They create a line of memories where not everything seems to be so bad, and that is why they end their comments relating to the cult with, "but they did good things".
So it seems that the sum total is balanced. It seems that the cult had some truth. Something had value. It is important to believe that inside the cult they did good things. Possibly they remember good moments or even favors received.
In this state of mind, it is important to remember that "the good" the cult does is for the purpose of dominating you. The cult's interest in you was just to integrate you. The encouragement given to you in order that you became a better person, was only to train you as a salesperson. The smiles, the good treatment, were so you would feel accepted. You had two worlds; one inside - the good one - and one outside – the bad one. The big goals, that floating feeling when they were telling you something great, were designed to create in you an addiction to emotions.
In a cult, the goodness is like that which an abusive bully throws his victim. Inside the cult, goodness is part of a circle of violation. After the maltreatment comes the calm, like a sort of reconciliation. That calm is a part of the vicious circle. The emotion of love that you felt from that "good" made you dependent on the abusive person; because the illusion of love was giving you hope that everything would become better. Even more, the affection and the maltreatment were making you weak.
As a cult is an environment of abuse, where are the good things? If you do "good" but in the end it it is for bad, was any of it good?
Or was goodness the mask of manipulation?
To think "that they also did good things" is a sign that a trace of the mechanism of negation that you learned inside the cult remains in you.
You learned it in order to not admit what was going on.
For those who think that the basic idea of a cult was good, admitting to themselves that the cult was not good can be very difficult but if a person can do it, then they will be able to accept the fact that they have been deceived. It can be very difficult to do so but in the end, without a doubt, you will feel better. You were not the wolf in sheep's clothing. They did nothing good for you.
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So it seems that the sum total is balanced. It seems that the cult had some truth. Something had value. It is important to believe that inside the cult they did good things. Possibly they remember good moments or even favors received.
In this state of mind, it is important to remember that "the good" the cult does is for the purpose of dominating you. The cult's interest in you was just to integrate you. The encouragement given to you in order that you became a better person, was only to train you as a salesperson. The smiles, the good treatment, were so you would feel accepted. You had two worlds; one inside - the good one - and one outside – the bad one. The big goals, that floating feeling when they were telling you something great, were designed to create in you an addiction to emotions.
In a cult, the goodness is like that which an abusive bully throws his victim. Inside the cult, goodness is part of a circle of violation. After the maltreatment comes the calm, like a sort of reconciliation. That calm is a part of the vicious circle. The emotion of love that you felt from that "good" made you dependent on the abusive person; because the illusion of love was giving you hope that everything would become better. Even more, the affection and the maltreatment were making you weak.
As a cult is an environment of abuse, where are the good things? If you do "good" but in the end it it is for bad, was any of it good?
Or was goodness the mask of manipulation?
To think "that they also did good things" is a sign that a trace of the mechanism of negation that you learned inside the cult remains in you.
You learned it in order to not admit what was going on.
For those who think that the basic idea of a cult was good, admitting to themselves that the cult was not good can be very difficult but if a person can do it, then they will be able to accept the fact that they have been deceived. It can be very difficult to do so but in the end, without a doubt, you will feel better. You were not the wolf in sheep's clothing. They did nothing good for you.
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