I place this new topic under the "Recovery and Abuse" very purposefully. I think you will understand why as you read, because the effect on a person who spends any length of time within the BKs is more insidious than we often realise.
In his answer to Manoj in the topic Psychological problems after wife joins Brahma Kumaris ex-l surprised me by saying
It was not what he said - I understood and agreed with it, it was the way he said it.
I balked at the language. Why qualify the word 'family' with "physical"? is not this still playing the BKSWU game, revealing how entrenched certain neuro-linguistic pathways are? After all, most of what we think is done so according to some language construct (no, I have not done any NLP specific courses or programmes, or even read about them. I am just using those words as i am talking about the neural pathways linked to language!).
Changing habits & patterns is harder than acting to existing habits & patterns. That's why BKs need to be constantly encouraged to continue to make effort, why learning any new skill requires regular application & practice, and usually a new language!
It has been shown that once something becomes habitual, the frontal cortex is less involved and the activity arises from the limbic system. Interestingly, the limbic system actually takes less energy (literally, less kilojoules or calories) to function whilst the frontal cortex - used in planning, facing new problems, new learning etc - takes substantially more. When lolling about doing nothing much, most brain activity is occurring in the limbic system. Habit is a kind of laziness - we admire anyone who displays great skill and appears to do it with little effort, almost lazily! it has become "second nature".
We in the West know about the longer-term effects of applying politically correct rules to speech. Despite the short-term irritations and occasional misapplication of PC language, people will stop using certain terms eventually because they do become unacceptable - 'nigger' being an obvious example. The language is like a supply line to the enemy's mindset. It gives nourishment to patterns of thinking.
Most people are unaware of the jargon they use, (e.g. teenagers saying "like" inappropriately and repeatedly). I sometimes will talk with BKs and ex-BKs and often (even with the ex-BKs) pull them up on their use of such language. As they are such people that don't want to be considered shallow or fundamentalists they are usually apologetic and will backtrack (e.g. one recently was telling me of her "lokik Brother" dying of cancer, and she did not realise she had said that until I mentioned it - as if I would think she was talking about a BK if she said "my Brother is dying of cancer").
May I suggest a policy for the forum that people's families are simply called their families, their Father & mother is their Father & mother, not their "lokik Father & lokik mother", same with Sisters, Brothers, etc.? I mean, does anyone ever give birth to an alokik baby? Can we lose the auto-capitals that this software applies to these words?
The only time a qualifier is needed is when such terms are used as a metaphor or adjective, which is how BKs use them, e.g. "quote marks" should be used when the BKs say "alokik family" or similar - that is, show what is the euphemism and what is the actual relationship.
Let's break the lingo that sustains such elitist and discriminatory thought patterns.
Let's make it clear that English is English and the minority use, the deviation is the BK jargon and the perverse attitude they encourage toward those who breastfed them, wiped their bottoms, raised them, had nothing but the best wishes for them, and so on.
In his answer to Manoj in the topic Psychological problems after wife joins Brahma Kumaris ex-l surprised me by saying
"the religion tends to just dump such individuals back with their physical families or into hospitals."
It was not what he said - I understood and agreed with it, it was the way he said it.
I balked at the language. Why qualify the word 'family' with "physical"? is not this still playing the BKSWU game, revealing how entrenched certain neuro-linguistic pathways are? After all, most of what we think is done so according to some language construct (no, I have not done any NLP specific courses or programmes, or even read about them. I am just using those words as i am talking about the neural pathways linked to language!).
Changing habits & patterns is harder than acting to existing habits & patterns. That's why BKs need to be constantly encouraged to continue to make effort, why learning any new skill requires regular application & practice, and usually a new language!
It has been shown that once something becomes habitual, the frontal cortex is less involved and the activity arises from the limbic system. Interestingly, the limbic system actually takes less energy (literally, less kilojoules or calories) to function whilst the frontal cortex - used in planning, facing new problems, new learning etc - takes substantially more. When lolling about doing nothing much, most brain activity is occurring in the limbic system. Habit is a kind of laziness - we admire anyone who displays great skill and appears to do it with little effort, almost lazily! it has become "second nature".
We in the West know about the longer-term effects of applying politically correct rules to speech. Despite the short-term irritations and occasional misapplication of PC language, people will stop using certain terms eventually because they do become unacceptable - 'nigger' being an obvious example. The language is like a supply line to the enemy's mindset. It gives nourishment to patterns of thinking.
Most people are unaware of the jargon they use, (e.g. teenagers saying "like" inappropriately and repeatedly). I sometimes will talk with BKs and ex-BKs and often (even with the ex-BKs) pull them up on their use of such language. As they are such people that don't want to be considered shallow or fundamentalists they are usually apologetic and will backtrack (e.g. one recently was telling me of her "lokik Brother" dying of cancer, and she did not realise she had said that until I mentioned it - as if I would think she was talking about a BK if she said "my Brother is dying of cancer").
May I suggest a policy for the forum that people's families are simply called their families, their Father & mother is their Father & mother, not their "lokik Father & lokik mother", same with Sisters, Brothers, etc.? I mean, does anyone ever give birth to an alokik baby? Can we lose the auto-capitals that this software applies to these words?
The only time a qualifier is needed is when such terms are used as a metaphor or adjective, which is how BKs use them, e.g. "quote marks" should be used when the BKs say "alokik family" or similar - that is, show what is the euphemism and what is the actual relationship.
Let's break the lingo that sustains such elitist and discriminatory thought patterns.
Let's make it clear that English is English and the minority use, the deviation is the BK jargon and the perverse attitude they encourage toward those who breastfed them, wiped their bottoms, raised them, had nothing but the best wishes for them, and so on.