I was lucky, I can settled my problem within 1 1/2 years. My health, wealth, family and friends come back to me slowly
Although I prefer to usually be far more objective in such matters, when it comes to BK recovery, it takes as long as you believe it takes. What you achieved in 1½ years took that amount of time because that’s how long
you took to change and permit change.
Sure, theoretically, we can change in a second, each new thought is a new state of mind. But the same character traits or instincts that took us into BKism (to then be re-shaped in that way of life), and then guided us out again, need time to be undone or re-shaped anew. We feel our way like blind men, not quite sure which thoughts to trust, which are ”me” and which are ”them”.
The quickest way is to realise each thought is, in that moment, me, i.e. I became one of ”them” and I have to acknowledge that has residues that will still be ”me” as long as they are thought or felt. Hence the need for critical thinking, circumspection, consciously adopting ”new me” activities and attitudes - which may need to be stroppy (overly assertive) or hyper-reactive to BKisms, at least for a while, to counter the residual affects of BK mentality within ”me”.
BKs wonder why ex-Bks get so hyper-negative sometimes or pedantically critical towards BKs sometimes, calling BKs out for crimes and misdemeanours found in all walks of life.
But really it is the the same reason why BKs adopt outward distaste for ”lokik” things like ambition, touch, desire for intimate relationships with others, corruption of the world (i.e. what they call virag or viragya in Hinduism). So ex-Bks need to practice virag for BKs and BKism and all the things that hooked into them and made them other than themselves.
Good on you ex-BK Jan, all the best in your becoming.
"“Life in its becoming is always shedding death, is always on the point of death. The conquest of fear yields the courage of life. That is the cardinal initiation of every heroic adventure — fearlessness and achievement.”
- from A Joseph Campbell Companion: Reflections on the Art of Living"