Thank you for the background. I am sickened to read the BKWSO in the USA is taking gold jewellery off Indian women as well. This is something they've been doing since the 1930s or 40s in India. Think about it, on hand it is not just the material value of it, but it is also the traditional significance of it as the women's security; an extension of her inheritance from her family and the emotional value of it. Symbolically, it's like surrendering the connection to her family - and the even the material value of that - to the Brahma Kumaris.
And what it means in practical terms is that Mohini Panjabi or one of her minions will have to slope off to the local pawn shop to get a fraction of actual worth back in USA dollars they can spend on self publicity.
I knew this went on in India, where young girls and poor villagers were encouraged to hand over their jewellery, and that it is all stored somewhere or turned into gifts for, or given to, rich and power VIPs.
Also bear in mind, Avid, that the other leading BK in the USA - BK Hansa Ravel of Texas - actually left her husband and infant child behind to join the BKWSO and it was only by doing so - neglecting her child - that she was able to ascend the ranks of the organization. Had she been consumed by looking after the welfare of her child, she could never have done so.
In the long run, that might be an option for you to refer to.
How did she become involved with the BKs? Was it in the USA, or in India? Who was it via?In the first place, as you learn more about the BKs, you need to be a little cautious and not rock the boat. Let's answer your questions and explore the options.
I am sorry to say it does sound as if your wife is hooked and deeply involved. That already the separation has taken place. Do you know which courses she has been through?
On a purely practical side, I know USA immigration law has recently changed depending on which visa you and she has to allow work, e.g. both L1 and H1B workers.
Please also bear in mind that there are two elements involved here; one is the negative influences of BKism which can and may well will completely destroy your relationship and, secondly, simply personal male-female or familial interpersonal issues. That is, issues which may have arisen anyway between you or personality issues that either of you have.
Of course, the BKs will exploit and exaggerate the smallest of cracks or differences and utilise them to further encult her, whilst supplying a barrage of well practised defences and deceit to defend themselves.
Although we cannot offer you legal advice, or even formal counselling via this website, please also remember that there are some very strict laws regarding the
parental abduction of children under the
Hague Abduction Convention, e.g. using the Children's Passport Issuance Alert Program (CPIAP) to prevent a possible abduction.
If it is possible to gain any evidence of her treats to do so, e.g. emails etc, then I would do so quickly but quietly. It will also show her that, a) you are not impotent and alone, and b) it will not be easy for her to act, as the BKs are fond of doing, above the law. Thankfully, the USA is not India.
Lastly, for just now, as we do not know you, her or the full circumstances of your circumstances, nor do you know the Brahma Kumaris well, can I urge you to do two things;
a) Take this threat to your family and especially your child's welfare very, very seriously. As it stands, you are facing a very high probability that your marriage is already over. Your "vehicle" (family) has already been hit by the far bigger Brahma Kumari juggernaut (cult) and is in the process of tumbling and disintegrating right now with you in it unaware. The Brahma Kumari is highly experienced in driving others off the road and walking way not just without blame, but also with the victims' wealth.
b) In the interim period, whilst you attempt to regain control by understanding what is going on, basically do nothing or say nothing that would in anyway arouse her or make her defensive. Remember that at the core of the Brahma Kumaris is a male-female persecution myth and that any misplaced attempt by you to save your marriage is likely to be re-intepreted as "persecution". making the myth appear more real to her and strengthening her bond to the BKs and their god spirit as her saviour.
Unfortunately, there is no one magic pill or bullet that we can give you that will awaken her; and once hooked, it is a very difficult fever or addiction to break out of until it naturally passes through its full course. Unfortunately, for many, they are so re-structured during that "fever" (the BKs call it "Honeymoon Period") that they never get out.
One thing I might consider at some point is a direct approach to the centre-in-charge or zone-in-charge to tell them to leave your life alone ... but you will need to be prepared to do so. Not ask. Tell. And ask for her property back.
This has been successful in the past when done so with professional legal action. However, it is a risky strategy as if it is not successful it will probably cost your relationship. Therefore, it is probably a last hope strategy best done in two stages, a polite approach, then a firm legal letter (it's a question of "undue influence" and we can give you the background and evidence to support it).
We can tell you what will happen if you go to the centre, what they are likely to say, and how they are likely to act so you can prepare yourself and defend yourself from it (they are going renege all responsibility and claim they have no influence over her, and say it is all her choice).
AbductionsThe United States does not have exit controls, so you should ask the advice of a qualified attorney who can help you to get sole custody of your child.
If there is any possibility that your spouse or your spouse's family will abduct your child, you may want to get a custody order that prohibits the removal of your child from the United States by your spouse or anyone acting on his/her behalf. Without a specifically worded custody order with minor child travel restrictions, law enforcement and airline personnel may not act to prevent your child from being taken out of the United States.
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Work with law enforcement officials to prevent your child from departing the United States;
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