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vidya · Joined: 02 Nov 2004 Posts: 7 Location: America

What are the causes of jealousy? How do we put an end to this??

catlady · Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 26 Location: USA

I think that this comes from a gap between expectations and reality. Whether this is material or emotional, the result is the same. Someone has been led to expect one level of treatment, but is denied it. Clearly, this may not be a purely one sided issue.
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Guest · Posted: Sun Feb 13, 2005 6:08 am Post subject:

why put an end? if not exagerated, it is needed sometimes as a positive stimulanse to get into action

I think most people's "spirituality" here stands in their way of truly understanding their own nature. Does it take so much courage to admit that you have a "dark" side as well? In times of trouble, it proofs to be of great value and makes sure you make a chance to survive, yet let it never become trouble on its own --> that is something completely different Wink

catlady · Joined: 01 Feb 2005 Posts: 26 Location: USA

I do think Kevin has a point. Sometimes, the negative emotions are motivating factors to take action. I think that jealousy can make one question the expectations from which it arises, and can sometimes grow from that.
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Guest · Posted: Tue Feb 15, 2005 1:32 am Post subject:

Omshanti.

I feel that jealousy can never be positive. If you are prompted to take some action out of jealousy for someone then its result will be negative in the long run, although it may appear to have caused some benefit immediately.

If one is prompted to take some action by observing without jealousy someone else reaping the benefits out of similar actions, then it will be called inspiration and not positive form of jealousy.

The proverb "As you sow, so shall you reap" is a time tested proverb. So one cannot say that jealousy will result in benefits for self or others.

Arjuna

uddhava · Joined: 20 Jan 2005 Posts: 142 Location: Paramdham

administrator · Site Admin Joined: 15 Nov 2003 Posts: 48

I have to agree with Uddhava here. Members are free to differ. In fact, we expect that. However, the posts on this website should not degenerate into open hostility, personal attacks, disrespect and rudeness. As it has been elegantly put:

"To disagree without being disagreeable is the mark of a superior mind"

ALL members should bear that in mind.

Admin

Guest · Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2005 11:20 am Post subject:

Omshanthi!
Vidya,

If you feel content with what you have then it is easy to come out of this feeling 'Jealousy'. Do not look what others are doing or what they have just keep yourself busy with your own things to do.

Guest · Posted: Mon Jun 13, 2005 11:09 am Post subject:

Om shanti Bhai!

You are correct along with attachment. If you start becoming more un-attached then this will assist you as well to overcome many things.

Take Care,

zhukov · Joined: 10 Apr 2004 Posts: 86

Resistance to what just IS.