I am sure she does remember but is only playing at "not remembering" or not wanting to remember. It will all come back after the "drug" wears off ... and after she starts having decent amounts of sleep!
terry wrote:Has anyone here ever left BKs because of logical argument from others?
Its interest to look, almost see visibly, the wall of responses, mental defences that a BK would project; partly the same self image of themselves that they are attempting to create and sustain, partly additional yuktis (mental tricks) used to distract, defend or even deceive non-BKs. Many of these are taught directly by the leadership, e.g. "Baba has never given a specific date for Destruction".
I imagine that they have all sorts of new ones for disarming the effect of this website, e.g. "a few disgruntled ex-BKs", "anti-party", "bad Maya" etc.
But, I think if someone had sat down with me and quietly warned me about the historical revision, the changes in the Murlis, the no God Shiva until after 1950 and, especially, the numerous failed predictions of Destruction, at least it would have gone in somewhere and encouraged me to open my eyes a little and at least plan my life better. Likewise, all the various abuses and tragedies. If she has not seen them, even to print out and show her the old original posters from the 1930s where all this is made clear might kick start some critical or analytical thinking. That is really what you want to do.
I agree that a combative approach would not work. I agree that engaging an intoxicated BK would not work as they would likely go into auto-pilot mode and use the occasion to "do service of the lokik" and "correct" them. But I think if I was the parent of a BK I would want to make sure my child knew my concerns. For that, the parents have to be fully informed in the first place, and BKs and the BKWSU do not do that.
If the child decides to continue after that point, then they have taken responsibility for their own life and I, as the parent would be free from any responsibility for them (in fact, an impossible state of mind for any normal parent). And I think, as with drugs, alcohol or an abusive relationship, the parents should be empowered and allowed to refuse to be any part of what the child has chosen.
I have to ask, do parents of BK blame themselves for their child's involvement in such a mentally controlling cult as the BKWSU? Can normal parents cut their feelings off so entirely? Specifically, which years did your Sister get involved with the Brahma Kumaris?
The trouble is, BKism is like a drug and until the high wears off, there is not a lot you can do. This may be controversial to write, but once she comes out, in my opinion, you should make any offer of support very conditional on her having no more contact with the BKWSU and, if necessary, that should be strictly communicated to the BKWSU so that they stop sending her spam, invitations to events and chasing after her.
Personally, if it was my child, I would have to "lovefully" draw a strict line and make it clear that I loved them and would support them as a parent would normally support a child but only on the condition that they had nothing to do with the BKWSU. Either or. Most parents up until now have had no resources to find out exactly what the BKWSU and its leadership is all about.